i feel like an unlikely pastor’s wife… i don’t live up to the image i’ve created of the lovely, gracious, patient, radiant woman who perfectly supports her pastor husband.
in reality, i am scattered. hurried. sometimes gracious, but more often self-involved and impatient with others. definitely not radiant- most often sweaty (why?? why am i always sweating on sunday mornings?). that’s me- i’m the sweaty pastor’s wife.
i just returned from a retreat for ministry wives for our denomination (EPC).
know what i learned?
there are others like me.
(poor things- i’m not calling you sweaty. maybe you’ve found a more effective anti-perspirant?)
while all the women i met were certainly gracious and lovely, they did not make me feel like they had it all together. they prayed for the same things i pray for. they worry about their church, their husbands, their children and their future in the same ways i worry. they get annoyed- bitter, even; we all get annoyed. they focus on the wrong things, and then feel the Lord turning their attention back to Him. they can’t change everything with a wave of their hands or even a special evening of prayer.
the best thing they have in common with me? sometimes they all wish their husbands had a nice job in a nice office where they go from 8:00-5:00 every day. this was particularly freeing for me, as i think this way about once a month. or i ask if i can move away to a cave where there are no people…
i’m not the only one who feels this way.
or, as my husband says, i’m not crazy.
i have some thoughts. i may blog about them. you don’t have to read them… just a warning. : )
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i'd find your cave.
… just a warning.
glad to hear that you enjoyed the time – will look forward to reading about what you learned.
I, too, wish my husband had an 8-5 job. Probably more than once a month.
And he can't even claim to be something as noble as a pastor. Although I love that he loves what he does.
Rachel you are awesome,e sweaty or not, pastors wife or not. You are too radiant. I know this because sometimes I get a little jealous of it. And you have the awesomest legs in the USA. Can I say that?
Rachel Blazer, you are completely radiant. Are you kidding me? (Greta, I get jealous about it sometimes too). You are also lovely and patient and every single other adjective you mentioned. And like keLi, I look forward to reading your additional thoughts!
While I'm not a pastors wife, I can certainly can related to not feeling like you are who you are supposed to be. And you kinda are the definition of radiant…sorry. Why am I only now just reading this blog?
thanks, lindsey- the radiance is sweat, i believe. : )